Our Journey Raising Two Children with Special Needs

This blog chronicles our life raising two children, Nicholas 15, diagnosed with Prader-Willi Syndrome and Weston 18, diagnosed with Autism/Asperger's/ADHD. It's the ups, the downs, the joys, the sorrows and most importantly, the beauty of living a life less perfect, a life more meaningful.

Thursday, March 2, 2017

The Golden Parent

Ok so when it comes to Weston's welfare, I:

spend hours and hours
in psychiatric hospitals and ER departments
I work behind the scenes
to develop plans with:
insurance companies
I selflessly sacrifice
my time, health and sanity
to ensure his life is a healthy one.

 But if you ask Weston
just who it is
 that makes him most happy?

Hands down
his answer will always be:


Wednesday, March 1, 2017


Weston is mid-way through
his court-ordered evaluation
at the collaborative school.
I am happy to report:
He is a new man.

For the first time in his life:
He looks forward to going to school.
He sits in a classroom filled with appropriate peers.
He is learning how to navigate social interactions and develop friendships.
He participates in weekly community lunch programs, field trips and local job opportunities.

He told me one day when he came home from school,

"You know what's nice about this new school Mom?"

"No, what?" I asked.

"There are a lot of kids that like me."

"That must be a nice feeling," I said.

"Yup," he replied.
"But I didn't believe it at first," he stated hesitantly.
"So I performed a little experiment," he explained.
"During lunchtime, I sat at a different table;
just to see what the kids would do.
And guess what?" he asked.

"What?" I answered.

"The whole class came over and moved their chairs to sit next to me."

I turned my face so he would not see me cry.

"Weston, there is a lot to love about you, don't ever forget that." I said.

But the sweetest moment was yet to come
 when it arrived the next day via text.

He wrote:

"I held hands with a cute girl on the bus today."

I believe he has finally found his place in this world.

On April 3, the collaborative will present to me and the school district
its final evaluation and recommendation
for Weston's transition accommodation
and future academic placement.

The school district does not, by law, need to comply with their recommendations.

Based upon our inability to agree with the district in the past,
there is a good chance we will need to meet again with the judge
at the Bureau of Special Education Appeals for resolution assistance.

But fear not my dear readers!
For inspired by Weston's profound success.....

I'm ready.

Monday, February 6, 2017

Tom Brady and Me Too

I live in the Boston area.
So it goes without saying that I am also a sports fan.

If I had to use one word to best describe a Boston sports fan, it would be faithful.

Yes, we here in New England are faithful fans,
not because our sports teams are champions,
but because for many years,
despite their spectacular play, they were not.

There is no victory more rewarding,
than one that comes after many years of excruciating loss.
(or controversy)

But to me
what I find most interesting about the
Patriots, Red Sox, Celtics and Bruins
is just how often
they are a reflection
of exactly what is happening in my own life.

Last night's game was no exception.

In the world of sports, there is much we can learn about life.

If you are a long time reader of our blog
then you know how much I admire Tom Brady. (click here to read)

I believe he is a man
who operates much like a parent
of a child diagnosed with special needs.

Let me explain,

In the first half of Super Bowl (LI), Tom Brady was attacked on all fronts. He was powerless to the onslaught of the Atlanta aggressors and the endless stream of continuous chaos. The red jerseys kept coming, pounding him to the ground, again and again. It was as if his opponent read his game plan and inhibited his ability to make any forward progress. Despite his best effort, he could not stop the bleeding.

Sound familiar?

While all of this was happening on the field, Coach Bill Belichick was on the sidelines observing and writing furiously onto his clipboard. He was, if you will, behaving like a mad scientist, looking for weakness and designing an experiment to expose the cracks in the opposing team's defense.


The team came back to the second half of the game with a new strategy.
What was this brilliant new plan you ask?

Hold on to the ball.

It was that simple.

And they performed this new strategy in Coach Belichick style
 with quiet determination
substance above flash
small well-executed plays
all day long
Tom Brady made short quick passes
to a variety of receivers
holding on to the ball
for a series of first downs
and an incredible total of 466 yards.
He made slow steady progress up the field,
tiring the young, depleted Atlanta defense
and running down the clock.
Several Patriots players contributed to the win
by making key sacks and miraculous receptions.
 With quiet focus,
the team made many small successfully executed plays,
that mounted to the big win in the end.

Under the steadfast and unwavering determination of Tom Brady,
and his ability to sustain steel-like focus under extreme pressure,
he led his faithful team to victory
 with a brilliant performance
that comes from many years of operating
at a heightened level of play.

Feeling all too familiar
to a family that operates under similar circumstances.

Congratulations Tom
on the game of your life.
(and ours)

You are our hero

And to the entire Patriots team

You are our inspiration.

Oh, and by the way,

My new motto for the year?


(Weston first day of kindergarten)

I dedicate this post to my Dad

There could be no more faithful Patriots fan

Monday, January 30, 2017


  1. hostility and ill-treatment, especially because of race or political or religious beliefs.

    "her family fled religious persecution"

    synonyms:oppression, victimization, maltreatment, ill-treatment, mistreatment, abuse, ill-usage, discrimination, tyranny; 

When ALL human beings from seven random countries,
are forbidden by law to enter our country,
simply because of their nationality and religious belief,
it is a form of persecution
and a violation of the principle from which this nation was founded.

It is an unconstitutional act
and should be a grave concern to all of our nation's citizens

looking to escape religious persecution

When we no longer offer our shores as refuge
to those searching for a better life,
we devalue our heritage
and depart from our core values as Americans

Lady Liberty's message must now read:

Give me your tired, your poor, 
Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free, 
The wretched refuse of your teeming shore. 
Send these, the homeless, tempest-tossed, to me: 
I lift my lamp beside the golden door.”

as long as you do not live in:
Iran, Iraq, Libya, Somalia, Sudan, Syria, or Yemen.
BTW, the pilots from 911...?

15  Saudi Arabia,
2  United Arab Emirates,
1  Egypt,
1 Lebanon
The single most deadliest terrorist attack on US soil.
The Boston Marathon bombers?
2 Chechnya

Immigration reform is an important issue in this country.

We can do it without persecuting human beings,
profiling religious beliefs, denying basic human rights
and disrespecting random nations with whom we seek to establish peace.

Persecution leads to isolation, alienation, anger and revolt.
With the stroke of a pen, we are less safe and further than ever from world peace.

I am a proud descendant of Albanian immigrants
who sought a better way of life
free from political interference
and who made significant contributions
to the betterment of this country

I believe in the importance
of this American principle
and the right of all human beings
and nations
to be free from persecution

Thursday, January 26, 2017

I Love Lucy...?

If you're a longtime reader of our blog, you are familiar with the gentle spirit and warm heart that defines my youngest son. He loves new-born babies, fluffy rabbits and soft, furry kittens, And although he just celebrated his 15th birthday, he thinks and behaves like a child who is much younger.

Sometimes I forget.

Over the holiday season, his new bus driver, introduced him to all of the Peanuts cartoon characters by giving him his first Charlie Brown Christmas DVD. Needless to say, Nick loved it. The sad little branch transforming into a colorful glowing tree, appealed whole-heartedly to his altruistic idea that kindness and cooperation has the power to transform sadness into beauty.

He loved the movie so much; he played it over and over again.

Since Nick's birthday arrives shortly after Christmas, I decided to seize upon this genius new opportunity. I bought him a collection of Peanuts presents: a Snoopy backpack, a Woodstock lunchbox, a Peanuts puzzle and last but not least, a Charlie Brown Great Pumpkin DVD.

So what if Halloween was months ago?

The movie captured the essence of the Magic Season, Nick's favorite time of the year.

Birthday gift-giving couldn't get any easier than this.

If you're unfamiliar with the Magic Season, click here to read about it.

So, you can imagine my surprise when Nick came storming into the kitchen and slammed the dvd down onto the counter.


"That's it!" he said emphatically.

"I am NEVER watching this movie EVER AGAIN!" he shouted.

"What happened?" I asked, surprised by his overwhelming reaction.

"Did it freeze up when you were watching it?" I asked, wondering if perhaps it got damaged by an unusually neglectful Amazon elf?

"NO!" he said, folding his arms across his chest, his silent cue that he is about to go postal.

I got down on one knee and looked in his eyes, now flooded with tears.

"Nicholas, what is it?"


"Why don't you like Lucy?" I asked.

"She took Linus's blanket. She is so mean."

"Oh Nicholas," I said, "it gets better if you keep watching it."

"No Mom," he said,

"I just can't take it."

"If it makes you feel better, he does get his blanket back," I assured him.

"He does?" Nick asks tentatively.

"He does," I answered.

"No Mom, I just can't watch her be so mean, ever again."

"OK Nick, I understand. But I'll leave it right here on the counter just in case you change your mind."

"Ok," he said tentatively, "But I don't think I'm going to....."

And there the movie sat, day after day after day.

"You know Nicholas," I said one day, "Lucy is a big sister. Sometimes big sisters are bossy."

"They are?" he asked.

"Yes, they are, but they are also very helpful. If you watch the movie you will see how Lucy takes care of Linus and gives him his blanket back."

"She does?"

"Yep, she does. I guess if you don't have a big sister it's kind of hard to understand."

"Arrright Mom, I'll try to be brave," he said with a sigh.

It took a few days

and then a few more

until eventually

the movie disappeared covertly from the counter.

I had to hold back my laughter

when I heard a very familiar piano melody

come blaring from the living room.

again and again and again

Sunday, January 22, 2017

No More Monkey Business

It is time to say goodbye to the red fire monkey
and the intensity of change he brought us last year.


The dawn of a new year celebration begins Jan 28 - Feb 15, 2017

If you are a follower of the Chinese New Year,
you could have easily predicted the outcome of the United States Election.

It is the Year of the Red Fire Rooster
Or in other words, it's all about me!

Are you ready for your wake-up call?

World peace?
Sorry, not going to happen.
Nations focus on domestic issues.
at the great expense of
diplomacy, foreign relations, and humanitarian effort.

There will be puffing and posturing
as nations crow boastfully
to see who rules the hen house,
which as you know is
a noisy, nervous and chaotic environment.

The hen house can be productive
if there is cooperation
There is hope for advances
and a variety of worldwide solutions
with the dawning of a new day

But alas, the rooster's motto is
"my way or the highway"
does not compute.
There is a fogginess
an inability to see things clearly

Protest, protest, protest
on a worldwide scale
civil unrest
as citizens find their voices
and learn how to crow
loudly and often
as roosters do best

Rooster is metal, red is fire
symbolizing a slow and steady burn
which may indicate conflict/war, missiles, rockets
explosion, fire  
From an earthly perspective:
eruption, comets, meteors, sun disturbances, forest fire

Sorry folks but another "red fire" year
means continuation of change.
Unlike the monkey, however,
the rooster
does not always land on his feet.

And so the motto for the year is:
As ye sow, so shall ye reap

The change that occurs this year 
will be a direct result of the energy
you devote.

Nothing comes for free this year,
 but hard work will be rewarded

On the health front,
bird years are often accompanied
by flu-like epidemics and respiratory illnesses

On a positive note, medical advances abound
and may lead to a "cure"
as well as better management
of physical and mental health issues

For some more good news

The metal rooster fares very well
for both industry and technology
There will be great leaps and bounds
in the areas of new energy,
invention, gadgetry, weapons, automotive, internet

New companies and high tech professionals
will rise to prominence
Entertainment will also see an influx
of flashy new talent and brilliant artistry
icons who will rise quickly in popularity
Creativity flourishes under a red rooster year
so go ahead and write that book

Science, science, science
and more science
A year filled with interesting
and mind-blowing new discoveries.
Space exploration, travel, discovery
The sky is the limit

The rooster is hard working and loyal,
so it is a good time for family and friends

He's about talking the talk and walking the walk.

He is flash above substance
so remember
this year it's all about appearances
Be sure to dress for success
and you will be sure to get the job or the girl

Saturday, January 21, 2017

Defcon 3

Children diagnosed with Prader Willi Syndrome are hungry all of the time.

The only thing that differs among them; is their drive to actively seek food.

For some it is overwhelming and immediate.
For others it is a slow progression over time.
But eventually, all of them will engage in covert eating.

We are fortunate.

While Nicholas struggles with many medical and behavioral challenges, his food seeking activities have always been mild and easily managed.

For the first 10 years of his life, we simply kept all of our food hidden away. This "out of sight, out of mind" philosophy was sufficient in keeping Nicholas safe.

With the onset of puberty however, Nick's drive became stronger, making it necessary for us to lock our refrigerator and pantry doors. But still, things like bread, butter, fruit and sugar were left out on our counter tops, safe from the grasp of our growing boy.

That is until yesterday 
when I reached for a slice of warm bread from our toaster
and noticed the empty butter dish
streaked with lines
of greasy fingerprints.
This would not be an unusual occurrence
in the Peters household
except for the sight of a well-licked spoon
resting beside it.

Oh no, I thought to myself....Nicholas!

I realized with a cold sweat and a broken heart,

I failed

I failed to protect my son from access to food.
Tears poured from my face
as I gathered the family
to explain what we all knew was coming.

It's time.

Time to secure all food in the house
and protect Nicholas for his own safety.
 No more snack packages
or half empty soda cans left by the bed side.
No sugar, salt, butter or bread left out on the counter

Nick's good health depends on our vigilance.

Mother Hubbard's cupboard
ain't got nothing on us
as we prepare to achieve
a heightened level of preparedness  
and operate at a level that is now officially at:

Not First


Tuesday, December 27, 2016

Dear Reader

Wishing you:

Joyous and happy holidays.

Some quiet time to recharge.

 New Year.......New Joy

One World

One Peace

Good Will to All

Our very best wishes to you
our dear readers

Saturday, December 17, 2016

Trophy Mom and Dad

Yesterday, Nicholas brought his Christmas project home from school.

He was asked to make a trophy.

and dedicate it to his hero.

We are not unlike other selfless special needs parents
 who battle through the minefields
 of heart-wrenching medical issues
in an effort to improve the lives of their children,

Our needs as a couple,
and as individuals
 are often neglected
as we carry out our duties
with a faithful sense of determination
so we may persevere through the unimaginable.

So, I guess it is appropriate
we celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary
at Children's Hospital in Boston with Nick.

But perhaps our teamwork
and super human effort to endure,
did not go unnoticed by our sensitive son.