|My Mom, Evelyn|
For my Mom's safety, we finally had to place her into an assisted living facility that specializes in caring for individuals diagnosed with dementia. It has been like a Godsend for my mother and our family. But still, I feel guilty. I feel guilty that I can not care for my mother the way that I would like to care for her.
I have come to realize that dementia sufferers experience many of the same issues faced by children diagnosed with ADHD and Prader Willi Syndrome.
Like Weston, my Mom is easily agitated and requires assistance handling transitions. She is impulsive and bores easily. She is overwhelmed and "shuts down" when situations are noisy or chaotic.
My Mom is also a lot like my son, Nicholas. She perseverates over and over about certain subjects. She has poor emotional control, cognitive and behavioral challenges and is obsessive/compulsive.
And much like the care I provide to my children, my mother's care requires many trips to physician's offices, psychiatrists and specialists.
I can't help but feel like I have been in "special care" training for the last 11 years of my life.
Raising two children diagnosed with special needs and an elderly mother diagnosed with dementia, I do not feel like a part of the Sandwich Generation.
|What New Yorkers call "The Hero Sandwich"|
|The Mom Sandwich|