Once again, I found myself plunked inconspicuously into the role of advocate, coordinating the care for my elderly mother who suffers from dementia.
During the IEP-like meeting, we review my mother's medications, doctor appointments and therapy services. We track her progress and make suggestions to improve the quality of her care. I smile to myself as I realize that I have been well-trained for this new position.
I ask questions, offer suggestions and interact with the staff. My sister, who does not have a child with special needs, and is new to this rather intimidating process, looks at me and wonders to herself....who is this woman?
I guess you could say "this woman" has been well groomed for this important new job.
Even my past life in the medical device industry prepared me effectively for this new life-saving role I have assumed for my family. It was here, that I learned how to negotiate with medial professionals. I learned how to sell idea's, how to explain, educate and most importantly...I learned how to seek to understand other's motivations and perspectives.
I guess it is not surprising to me that this challenging life has made me reaffirm my spiritual connection since I cannot help but feel like there was a lot of thought that went into preparing "this woman" for a future role of caregiver to the medically fragile individuals in her life.
I fear the first half of my life, I may have been asleep..... sleep-walking my way through life, assuming I was preparing myself for a role devoted entirely to myself.
I am awake.
And although I do not make any money and there are no promotions or prestige in this new career of mine. It is perhaps the first time in my life, I feel I am doing exactly what I was born to do!