"If you judge people, you have no time to love them."
Lately, I have felt that many of the folks closest to me have been my harshest critics.
Is asking for some patience, tolerance and understanding...in light of our unending hardships an unreasonable request? Mercy, love, forbearance...forgotten?
I think there are many parents of children diagnosed with special needs who feel similarly. And I wonder why? Why does this happen? What happens to us that closes us off to some folks and brings us closer to others, usually those who share our hardships?
Why do we judge others?
What purpose does this serve?
Is it the end result of intolerance, ignorance, resentment, jealousy?
Here is what some folks have to say about the subject:
“Before criticizing a man, walk a mile in his shoes.”
“Criticism of others is thus an oblique form of self-commendation. We think we make the picture hang straight on our wall by telling our neighbors that all his pictures are crooked.”
“These people who can see right through you never quite do you justice, because they never give you credit for the effort you're making to be better than you actually are, which is difficult and well meant and deserving of some little notice.”
“When one experiences truth, the madness of finding fault with others disappears.”
“Because it strikes me there is something greater than judgement. I think it is called mercy.”
“We are all hypocrites. We cannot see ourselves or judge ourselves the way we see and judge others.”