Our Journey Raising Two Children with Special Needs

This blog chronicles our life raising two children, Nicholas 14, diagnosed with Prader-Willi Syndrome and Weston 17, diagnosed with Autism/Asperger's/ADHD. It's the ups, the downs, the joys, the sorrows and most importantly, the beauty of living a life less perfect, a life more meaningful.




Saturday, November 8, 2014

Mathematics and Mothering

Lately, I have learned that raising a child diagnosed with special needs is a lot like doing the math.

It's about solving complex problems.

It's about remembering rules.

It's about making calculations, estimations and sometimes taking your best guess.

It is, without a doubt, a lifestyle devoted to abstract thinking.

Now, I was never very good at math,

Let's just say, I am becoming much more proficient.

My latest "Nick dilemma" involves one of his most beloved possessions, his Paw Patrol shirt.


We bought this shirt about a year ago in response to his love for the new Nickelodeon television show. It quickly became one of his favorite items of clothing. He has however, out grown it. So for a while, to still enjoy his beloved shirt, he was placing it on his pillow and sleeping with it at night. This solved the problem and all was well in the Peters household.

In the meantime, however, he has met some new "typical" classmates. One of them is V. She has become his good friend. She pushes him on the swing at recess. She talks to him about his favorite things, which includes, of course, Paw Patrol.

I believe Nicholas has fallen in love with her. Who wouldn't?

So, in an effort to win the girl, he has decided to wear the shirt.


Problem is....

It doesn't fit him any more. It is too tight and exposes his midriff, not exactly alluring attire for attracting the opposite sex. Not to mention the fact that he wants to wear it every day.

I have tried to delicately approach the subject of proper attire with Nicholas, but he is convinced that "this shirt" is the secret to getting "this girl". He is not willing to take the risk.

Enter Ms Emily.......Nick's new teacher.

She has come up with a great idea to solve this complex problem.

She is making a new Paw Patrol shirt for him.

Nick is a little nervous however, and unsure whether a new model of the same shirt will have the same effect on the object of his affection.

Ms Emily and I have agreed that V may hold the key to Nick's success. If she loves it, maybe he will too.

So in math terms, the solution to Nick's complex problem is:

X = V